The Art of Ignorance

 

Recently I started to breathe...nhi mai saans pehle bhi le rahi thi....par jobless aur "kunwari tezi se budhi hoti huyi ladki ko settle karo", "Abhi tak clear nhi hua?" "Nukari nhi chhodni chahiye thi!" wale taano ne suffocate kar rakha tha! 

But by the grace of God, sorry, by the grace of government, I secured a job which made me a little mentally stable to absorb all the taunts of society. Taunts ab bhi hain....par level badal gaya hai.

Now people taunt me .... that "Rank thoda aur achha rehta toh promotion achhi jaldi hoti; cdpo hi toh hai....kaun sa upsc clear ki hai....; Itni  hi tez thi toh yahi exam clear kar payi....tyaari toh upsc ki kar rahi thi..." 

Kuch over-concerned relatives ke sujhav bhi mil rahe ki "aur aage jaana hai"....iss baat se jo pressure create hota hai mere "komal mann" par shayad hi unko maloom ho! 

Kuch relatives ke mumma papa ko taunt-calls bhi aane band ho gaye;  Ab vo khud apne issues par zyada focused honge kyunki itne dino se mere liye jo pareshaan the! 

Ghar baithe "muft ki roti" mai todti aur deficit unka hota tha! I felt utmost sad for them! 

Kuch ne puch hi diya "upsc me kitne attempts gaye"? "Tyari dhang se nhi ki kya?" 

Toh in sab se mujhe thoda bura laga....like "I am not good enough"..."I didn't put enough effort"....etc etc.

But sooner I realised that IT DOES NOT MATTER TO ME.

And no matter what I do, what I achieve, what I lose, what I score, I CAN NEVER PLEASE ANYONE AND EVERYONE! 

And I AM NOT HERE TO PLEASE ANYBODY!

People just see the names in the result list and just start judging candidates, good or bad! They have never seen the efforts of the person, nor the frustration or the low phases! Bas logo ko bina mange advice or taane dena hai!

They will, no matter what you do, will criticise you! And why in the world will you give attention to their criticism! 

It is not only a waste of time and energy but also a waste of healthy cells! 

If you score a century, they'll be sad about your not scoring double century. 

If you get 364th rank in civil services exam and get Indian Revenue Services, they'll  taunt you for not getting the Indian Administrative Services! 

If you get the IAS and not your preferred cadre, they might even taunt you for that!

So I have understood ki bechare log aapko criticise karna nhi chhod sakte chahe aap Iran-Usrael war bhi kyun na rukwa do. 

And the way forward? 

Well, let your ears hear their criticism and not listen to it. 

And do everything in your life for your aspirations and not for anybody else, not even your own shadow!

If you fail an exam, and you wanna paint, go ahead, dont think ki log kya sochenge, "mujhe shok manana chahiye aur mai painting kar rahi".

If you wanna go to the market, don't think ki mai desh ki unemployed berozgaar yuva hoon, mujhe shopping ka koi haq nhi, I should pack myself in this "room turned library" and not buy myself a dress! 

If you wanna dress well, don't think ki "mujhe kahan jana hai" isi table chair par toh pade rehna hai, in fact dress yourself to look finest!

And most importantly!

If you want to go to a party, but deep inside you think ki "log kya sochenge, mai desh ki berozgaar yuva kaise apna muh dikhaungi relatives ko? " ye thought ko bhi ditch karo aur go to the wedding...carry yourself with confidence because whatever you are doing, nobody else can even dare to do!

Its very easy to blame people on their decisions, failures but nobody can even dare to walk through their paths!

The truth is whatever gyan I spilled right now, I wish somebody could have told me earlier! I would have been happier and stress free and not talk to my "physician-cum-therapist"  that "I don't know doctor I don't feel good these days" and she would always return me with blank prescription with BP- 87/118 Pulse - 93 oxygen - 98% and told me to meditate!

Hardly she could infer that the pressure in the cerebrum was over the normal range! (As Rancho told about Joey in 3 idiots)

So...anywhich way, despite all these odds, "kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna!"

But in life ultimately what matters is you and only your happiness. 

Dont think a shit about how others will judge you!

And worry only about your peace of mind!

And work to please not anyone else but yourself! Just you! 

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